Because life is better when you love yourself.
Today is a guest post by the lovely Courtney Carver of Be More with Less.
There’s a lot of talk about what we should and should not be buying or doing over the holidays. By now though, we are in it. We’ve decided who we are going to spend time with and how we are going to engage in the holiday season. The extra shoulds and shouldn’ts and any other simplicity shaming can stop now.
Sure … you can still pull back, make subtle shifts and engage differently, but for me, letting go and getting all holiday-ish on the inside and the outside feels like the next best step. You know what’s best for you and I’m guessing that it’s not feeling guilty about not being simple enough or not doing simplicity right. The process of simplifying my life, and especially simplifying the holiday season took me years. I’m still working on it a little bit each day and grateful I’ve taken so long and done it in a way that feels right to me.
The most meaningful gift to give yourself right now
If you are trying to figure out what’s best for you or what the next best step to take is, here is the most meaningful gift you can give to yourself right now.
Five minutes: Carve out five minutes each day to sit quietly and ask yourself, to ask your heart the following questions.
What matters most today?
How do I really want to spend my time?
What do I need to do to take really good care of myself and the people I love today?
It might help to put your hands on your heart while asking these questions.
Even if you can’t fully live your answers yet, hearing them is going to make a difference. If there isn’t an answer, that’s ok too. Keep showing up for five minutes and asking these questions.
Even with this small commitment of time …
you will have more clarity on when to say yes, and when to say no.
you will feel less pressured by the shoulds or by what other people expect.
you will smile more knowing that who you are is much more important than what you cross off your to-do list.
Try it for a day or two and if you like what you are experiencing, commit to five minutes a day through the end of the year. At the end of the year, if you’ve learned something about yourself, felt a little more peaceful, noticed that your days aren’t as crazy or if others notice a positive change in you, consider turning your holiday practice into a daily heart practice.
Courtney Carver runs Be More With Less and is the author of Soulful Simplicity.
Be more with less means: Be more you. Give yourself all the space, time and love to remember who you are. Living with less clutter, busyness, stress and simplifying your life will help you make the room to do what you need to do. Simplifying my life gave me the space, time, and love to be more me, and the following practices led me back.