The Four Agreements Deep Dive

Revisiting them 20 years later

The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz

“The Four Agreements

1. Be impeccable with your word.

2. Don’t take anything personally.

3. Don’t make assumptions.

4. Always do your best. ”

― don Miguel Ruiz

9/11/2001 became a sort of wake-up call for me.

I'd been living small, tucked into a box, into more boxes within myself, trying to survive an abusive marriage. I wasn't happy. I wasn't inspired. I wasn't safe.

Life wasn't good.

9/11 made me realize I had a lot of unfinished 'God business' to work through, and it really made me realize how abruptly life can end.

One of the ways I coped was by attending a local progressive church - in search of community and support in my inner journey. It turned out not to be a lifelong fit - that first church - but it did turn out to have a lifelong impact because it was at that progressive church that I was blessed to hear don Miguel Ruiz speak in person about his book The Four Agreements.

I bought and read my first copy and continue to live by the principles he teaches in that book to this day.

Well, the book came back to the front of my awareness recently because I included some information about one of the agreements in one of the daily exercises for the Beta run of my Fall In-Love with Yourself program.

I wondered how the book would settle in my heart some 20 years later; getting curiouser and curiouser I began to get excited. Also, I found and ordered a Companion Guide to the book - it arrived yesterday!

So for March, I'm doing a deep dive back into don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements.


My rough plan is to spend a week on each Agreement, sharing with you whatever comes up. I plan to read each Agreement's chapter at the beginning of each week and then pick up the companion book throughout that week. I am giving myself time to let things settle before moving on.

Wanna join me in diving deeply into The Four Agreements this March?

I'm also hoping to get a little book journal put together for myself this week. If I do, I'll share a link here for any of you who've decided to join me in this deep dive.

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